Do you want the best for your teen?
A life of clear direction, confidence, great relationships, and all round happiness?
Do you worry that they’ll end up in a job they hate, going through the motions of a humdrum life without any real satisfaction?
Do you want them to set their sights high and then go for it?
3 ways to support your teen to dream BIG:
1. Encourage them to dream big for themselves AND others!!
Ask them what their dreams are. What do they really want for their life? Not just in their career, but also in the areas of relationships, lifestyle, health, and finances.
What kind of world would they love to live in? How can they contribute to this? What are the issues in the world that they care most about and that affect them emotionally? How can they use their gifts and talents to contribute?
Because this is where real joy comes from. It’s not about being a martyr. It’s not about sacrificing their own happiness in order to serve. It’s about achieving a happy and fulfilling life in a way that contributes to the wellbeing of others and the world.
2. Minimise their fear of failure
What if they dream big and don’t make it? Will they look like a fool? What will others think of them?
Maybe they want to fit in. There’s comfort in being average. It’s scary to stand out from the crowd.
But they don’t fit in. They’re special and unique.
Let them know it’s OK to be different.
Let them know you believe in them and their potential to succeed.
Let them know that on the path to success, failure is inevitable, and persistence is essential.
3. Teach them to embrace uncertainty
What if things don’t work out?
What if the unexpected and awful happens?
The survival of our species on this planet is currently statistically unlikely.
Does that mean we stop dreaming of a better world? That we stop taking action steps in that direction?
No. When we plant a seed in the ground there’s no guarantee the plant will grow. When you gave birth to your child there was no guarantee everything would go smoothly.
“Satisfaction lies in the effort, not in the attainment. Full effort is full victory.” Gandhi
In exams, teens can apply these same three strategies. Dream big and aim high, let go of the fear of failure, embrace uncertainty by letting go of attachment to outcome, and then fly.
Or to put more simply, “over prepare and then let go”.
When they do this, they are better able to enjoy the journey. They can apply full effort without fear.
And because they did their best, there’s no regrets.
And paradoxically, they’re more likely to achieve.
But what if they’re not achieving at school? You know they’re bright and capable, but what if this isn’t reflected in their grades?
The danger is that they start believing they’re not good enough, that they will never be successful.
Some of the brightest and the best will never succeed at school. They don’t mould to this conventional system. They do things they’re own way.
Keep believing in them. Keep reminding them that anything is possible if they are willing to do the work.
Teach them to use the situation to their advantage. Question and debate ideas in a productive way. Ask for alternative subjects and activities if what is being provided does not suit them.
Encourage them to learn what they can from their current situation. And if they don’t love it, to dream of something different.
Would you love your teen to embrace the opportunity of the Anxious to Awesome mentoring program?
Most mothers would love to give their teen the opportunity of this AWESOME support.
If your teen is currently confused around their future direction, if they feel like they’re not good enough, that they don’t fit it, then the Anxious to Awesome program is for them.
If your teen is bright but has difficulty with their emotions and therefore their school achievement or relationships, then the Anxious to Awesome program is for them.
If your teen can identify that they want to feel happy and fulfilled in all areas of their life, then it will be easier for them to commit to doing the Anxious to Awesome program. If they are willing to commit thirty minutes per day plus one hour per week to the program, they will experience great transformation in their life and in their ability to dream big and confidently take action steps towards these goals.