I feel out of integrity. Not with the disclosure of my court appearance and criminal activity, I feel OK about that. But with my subtle, or not so subtle, manipulation.
Those of you who have received my emails in the past, signed up to receive either my free ebook or free 5 day Mindful Mums ecourse. Last week, I decided to write regularly again after about a year or so.
In the last year I’ve been working as a social worker with a youth homelessness service, have continued to organise and run Radiant Woman Retreats, organised a gathering of about twenty women who are actively involved in girls’ Rites of Passage work in Australia and New Zealand, have been in conversation with women in the Kimberley (Western Australia) about contributing to a healing program for young Indigenous women there, and have started to talk to schools about running one day workshops.
So, my plate has been full. But actually, I missed these blogs. They are an opportunity for me to reach and connect with a broad audience, and also to connect with myself and have a disciplined practice and creative outlet. I don’t often know what I’ll write about it advance, and often it’s like pulling teeth to actually sit down and get it done. But it’s a process in which I connect to something beyond myself, something that knows truth and wisdom and can navigate a tricky situation I’m confronted by - either personally or in my external world.
So, last week, with the court situation, I knew it would help me to write. I knew I needed to sit down and transform my anger into some form of effective action. And I knew that I have this opportunity to have a voice and be heard by you all. But I wasn’t sure. The risk to my professional reputation was real and it took me some time, and some long conversations, to decide the best move.
I’ve criticised others I know in the public eye for their silence on important issues because they wanted to appeal to everyone. So I knew I had to stand behind my words on that and be willing to express a strong opinion on an issue that is divisive.
And then I went from not quite sure, to heck well I’ll send it to everyone I know. Ooops. I say oops because what I then did, with an uncharacteristic lack of discernment, was add ever single email contact I’ve made in at least the last year onto my mailing list. I didn’t filter this list at all. Import ALL CONTACTS from email to mailing list server.
Only after the email was sent did I realise the error of this. Not only did I send it to totally inappropriate contacts - e.g. the child safety mandatory reporting email, the recruitment email of my current workplace, the school contact where I’ve had meetings about workshops, business emails that would simply not be interested - I didn’t ask.
I didn’t ask. Now, when you sign up for a free ebook or online course, there’s an implicit understanding that you are giving your email address to someone who is probably going to try to sell you stuff and send promotional emails. And you can easily unsubscribe.
But you never signed up for this.
And not only that, I went for the full emotional manipulation and framed it so that if you did unsubscribe, that was connected to your lack of support for my difficult situation. NOT OK!!! And I’m sorry for that!!!
So, if you’re still here, great!!! But let me explain what I’ve signed you up for. I’m back to my commitment to write a blog/ article every week.
They’re broadly aimed at Mums of teenage girls. They’re about issues I’m faced with personally and that I see in the world. Sometimes I rant. But my goal is to uncover a different more honest perspective and to inspire some personal change for you, either internally or in how you act in the world.
I’m passionate about gender issues, social justice issues, economic justice issues, personal growth and transformative practices in order for all of us to fully live our potential.
Sometimes I’ll tell you about programs I offer. I may ask you to donate to a good cause, or sign a petition.
But now, in this new iteration, my goal is to create conversation. I’d love to hear from you. What’s your experience with and perspective on an issue?
Quite a few people replied via email to last week’s article and I really appreciate this.
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