Ah teaching. What a noble profession. Rewarding for those destined for it, for whom it is their passion and their life.
Kids know the difference between a teacher who is fully passionate and dedicated to their role, and a teacher who really needs to keep looking for their perfect career. I’ve used this as an example to illustrate the importance of finding their unique role – and they get it straight away.
I’m not one of those passionate teachers. Teaching for me is a stepping stone to other things – to my social work practice and Rites of Passage work. And it pays the bills.
Yes, I’ve learnt a lot. In my first year of teaching I had many sleepless nights (the only time in my life I’ve had trouble sleeping), I had flashing thoughts of driving into the oncoming trucks on the highway on the way to school, I lost my temper often, and I felt that I had split personalities – split between my stressed teacher self and my fun happy social self.
That situation has transformed greatly and although I do experience some stress at school, I’m a lot more confident in my ability to manage challenging behaviours, I very rarely if ever lose my temper, and my fun happy self plays more of a role in the classroom. (To the point where a student said to me only today, “we’re not really scared of you Miss because you’re just like someone we’d want to hang out with”. Hhmmm – maybe not ideal either!!!)
All of what I’ve learnt from this process (about teenagers and for my own transformation) I now share with Mums in my 5 day Mindful Mums Ecourse which you can sign up to HERE.
When I first started teaching I would have told you I was a bad teacher. Because I was cranky and because I didn’t feel like I was creating engaging lessons every lesson. Firstly, this is an unrealistic expectation for a first year teacher given the workload and number of hours in the day. And secondly, this is not my ideal role. This is not where my true genius and creative potential flows naturally.
Now, I still don’t plan exceptionally engaging lessons. And because I have ideals of working with passion and I have perfectionist tendencies, this creates some uneasiness and internal tension. I'm not in my perfect role and I need to keep moving.
However, I’ll tell you now that I’m a great teacher. Because beyond the lesson content is the lesson delivery. Now I work with love and I know that whatever role or environment I’m in, for whatever reason (e.g. to pay the bills!!), the potential for loving service is the same. I work with passion because I work with love.
Some feedback from my students this term:
“You’re a great teacher Miss, I wish we had you all the time”
“You explained that so well. I really understood everything you just said.”
“High five Miss, you did a great job.”
“You’re like our Biology Mum.”
“You’re not that bad. To be honest we hated you at the beginning though.”
“Are you sad you’re leaving Miss? Do you want a hug?”
Yes, I’m sad I’m leaving. Teaching is a meaningful and rewarding role. But I’m one of those teachers that needs to move on.
I’ll teach a max of 2 days per week until the end of the year and the countdown is on. That’s no more than 38 teaching days left in my life.
My true role is to facilitate Rite of Passage work for teenage girls.
Next term I’ll start to work 3 days a week with an organisation called The Making of Men. They’ve been running successful Rite of Passage programs for boys and fathers for nearly 30 years.
I'll learn from them everything I can and I’ll work with them to write school programs for both boys and girls.
Next year I’ll travel to regional schools all around Australia to facilitate workshops.
In September I’ll team with a group of amazing women to co-facilitate Radiant Woman: A Mother Daughter Rite of Passage Retreat.
My online program Anxious to Awesome, launched at the end of 2015, already had all of the elements of a Rite of Passage process.
This is where my true genius and creative potential is put to best use.
I’ve learnt so much more about myself, about teenagers, and about Rite of Passage work since Anxious to Awesome was first created. The new and improved Anxious to Awesome program is now available for a special price of $999, but only until September 1st.
Would you love your daughter to find and play her unique role with power and passion? Click HERE to find out more about Anxious to Awesome: A Rite of Passage Journey for Youth to Develop Their Sense of Direction.
Or click HERE to book a FREE 20 minute intro session.
I look forward to hearing from you.