Ah periods. Don’t we love them? Or hate them as the case may be. Mood swings, pain, aches, hot flushes, etc. None of this is healthy and yet we accept it as such.
As a young person a teacher told how periods to her were an inconvenience and nothing special. I took that on board.
I experienced painful periods as a teenager. I reached for pain killers as a quick fix.
In my early twenties I studied Chinese Medicine. I learnt that an energetically balanced body does not experience pain during menstruation. This is a sign that something’s out of whack.
I got regular massages and acupuncture treatments, I learnt about healthy nutrition, spent more time in nature, cut out the drinking, and stopped taking the contraceptive pill. I got myself more in balance. The painful periods stopped.
About four years ago, I went back on the pill for a month - big mistake.
(Choice of contraception is an important issue especially for teenagers, but that will be the topic of another blog).
My next period, I flooded two tampons in about 10 minutes, and experienced some of the worst pain I’ve had in my life. Since that time I have had heavy bleeding, and extreme pain.
Pain that’s felt like someone stabbing me in the stomach and twisting the knife around. Pain that’s meant I’ve had to leave work but haven’t felt OK to drive. For most of these years I suffered the pain, or took more nurofen than recommended. Only in the last six months or so did I discover the power of codeine.
I still got massages and acupuncture. I still spent time in nature, did yoga, ate well etc. But I didn’t want to delve deeper into the cause of this. I was satisfied with the quick fix. I was pissed off that I’d done the work before and now the pill, that evil pharmaceutical, had messed with me again.
But blaming the external never gets us anywhere. Ignoring the issues and reaching for the quick fix never solves the problem.
So what happened?
Last month I bled for the first time in four years with NO PAIN.
OK so what’s the secret? This is what’s been going on:
I had to face up to the fact that I was avoiding this. I knew it didn’t have to be this way. And I knew from previous experience it was changeable. I first had to admit this to myself and commit to working it out.
I started paying attention to my cycle with a new awareness of how where I’m at in my cycle affects my energy, focus, and mood. I found affirmations for different stages of my cycle and repeated them to myself everyday throughout one full month.
I had a kinesiology session with an amazing kinesiologist and medical intuitive, which was focused on feeling safe in the world, a big issue for many women, and something that’s affected me since conception.
I stepped into an empowered feminine leadership role. I co-facilitated a girls’ group with Dr Arne Rubinstein - a powerful, experienced, and influential man in the field of adolescent development and Rite of Passage work. I was scared and nervous so I worked with my business mentor around visualising this group going well.
She asked how it felt in my heart – “joy’. She asked how it felt in my stomach – “relaxed and open”. She asked how it felt in my womb – “uummmm…. my where?” Totally nada, nothing, zip.
I’ve done lots of meditation and body awareness but have never connected with the physical sensations of this space. So then I did - with her guidance and by using a powerful shamanic meditation journey every day for several days.
Needless to say the group was a great success.
Finally, I’ve connected with Gabrielle Goldklang, founder of Girl Wisdom, to co-create and co-facilitate Radiant Woman: A Mother Daughter Rite of Passage Retreat. When we first met she also experienced intensely painful periods. Recently, we created a Rite of Passage experience for ourselves as we step into a new partnership and phase of our respective businesses. During this time I shared that I had experienced my first pain free period in years. She said, “me too”.
This retreat will involve powerful, transformational work, for you and your daughter. You will both transform as women, fully embodied in feminine power.
We invite you and your daughter to join us on this journey. Click HERE for more info (and check out our pretty new website!!). Book your spot NOW. This will sell out.
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